There are a lot of love myths out there that ruin your chances of finding The One – the man of your dreams.
You’ve probably heard about famous celebrity break-ups like…
- Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes…
- Heidi Klum and Seal…
- Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson…
- And America’s sweetheart and once-power-couple… Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston.
These women have it all right? But, STILL their relationships fell apart.
Have you ever questioned WHY?
If you’re one of the most beautiful women on the planet…and you’re what other women want to be…
Won’t that give an EDGE in finding your true love…your other half…
…the ONE meant for YOU?
You must have asked these questions at some point…
“He’s not quite THE ONE for me.”
“Where is HE? A good guy that’s meant for me?”
“I’ll never fall in love THAT way again.”
And who would blame you for feeling that way?
You’ve been searching and waiting – paid your dues… still, you’re not where you want to be.
Like famous female celebs…you might have fallen to deceptive beliefs…and ruining your chances of ever being happy.
If you’re in a relationship or looking for that perfect guy to be with forever, check these Love Myths that could be killing your chances.
Love Myth # 1: Love at first sight
Just like Romeo and Juliet in the movie “Shakespeare In Love”, or Jack and Rose in “Titanic,” you dream of that guy who’ll just take one look at you and will be captivated by your feminine wiles.
And he’ll move mountains just to be with you.
There’ll be an instant spark between the two of you, and you’ll know when your eyes lock that he’s the man you’ll marry.
A love story, the kind blockbuster movies are made of.
And… well, that’s not realistic.
You’re not in a movie and you have no scriptwriter who’ll write the story for you. You make your own story, and how it plays out depends on the decisions YOU make.
So, open your eyes. There are a lot of guys out there – and the guy who will complement you is out there!
Love Myth # 2: There aren’t enough good men
Remember the movie “13 going 30” with Jennifer Garner? It’s a movie about a 13-year-old girl Jenna who’s oblivious to her chubby friend Matt’s love for her due to peer pressure.
When she wakes up a 30-year-old woman, she finds herself with a hot, model boyfriend who’s a bit shallow. She looks for Matt who’s now engaged and realized HE is the one she truly loves.
(Spoiler alert – or maybe not…) Well, they end up together.
The point here is, there are a TON of good men out there. You just need to ease down a bit your expectations.
AND don’t use that as an excuse to give up!
Does he need to be a hot guy?
Or a model? Rich?
Just to be considered…a GOOD guy?
Does he need to PLAY you? And show you he’s the man…for you to consider him “good”?
Let go of this myth, put aside your perceived notions of a good guy that you see in the media.
And you might be surprised…he might just be in front of you all along.
Love Myth # 3: If it’s meant to be…it’ll HAPPEN
You’ve heard this one before: You only get a one chance at true love.
Once chance. One love.
And there’ll be signs everywhere when the right guy comes along. He’ll be your one true love…your soulmate.
The person that’s your other half, and when you’re finally together…everything will make sense.
Once half…will now become whole.
Just like Sara and Jonathan from Serendipity. They were both buying the same pair of black gloves, they felt a strong pull towards each other even if they’re both in a relationship.
And after having such a fantastic day, they exchange phone numbers by writing down on a piece of $5 bill and on a book.
If they’re meant to be together, the items will find their to them…and after twists and turns…and so may years. It did find its way to them.
But, all that wasted time, years spent…
And…again it’s a *movie.* The writers made the characters find their way to each other so they can be together.
You need to have control of your own destiny…of your own life. Make it work now and don’t waste time waiting, looking for something that’s unknown.
Remember that life is short. And you can choose to be happy NOW.
Love Myth # 4: Happily ever after
As kids, you were mesmerized by Disney movies like Cinderella, Snow White and Rapunzel…
And, who wouldn’t?
With all those colorful settings, feel-good music and perfect characters. You’ll be drawn to them.
And while you’re watching intently…you’d get used to the story…
Damsel in distress…Prince Charming coming along to save the day. The whole palace cheers on the wedding…and they live happily every after.
And in your messed up brain, it’d stay with you. Until you grow up.
You assume and expect that your Prince Charming will come along, sweep you off your feet, get married….easy as that!
In your mind’s eye, your relationship should always be smooth sailing.
No problems. No worries.
Wrong!
No one is perfect. Not even you.
All human beings make mistakes.
And a long-lasting relationship takes a lot of effort…if you want to make it work.
When things go wrong, you sit it out – then compromise and find a solution.
You can sit all day in your self-made comfort zone, blissfully unaware of what it really takes to find your Happily Ever After.
Or you can choose to let go of these Love Myths and start your journey to a new awareness…
This is where you start attracting HIM, the guy you NEED in your life…
…and fill him with IRRESISTIBLE DESIRE so he’ll want to be with you…forever.
Yours In Perfect Passion…
– Carlos Cavallo
UPDATED 9/24/2021
