The Academic Truth Behind Self-Disclosure
Now, let’s get a bit academic here. Research shows that self-disclosure in therapy can be beneficial when used sparingly and strategically, but it must always serve the client’s needs—not yours [APA Code of Ethics]. If your sharing helps the client feel understood and less alone, great! But if it starts to overshadow their narrative, that’s when it crosses the line. The American Counseling Association echoes this, advising that self-disclosure should be used with caution to ensure it’s always in the client’s best interest [ACA Code of Ethics].
How to Keep Self-Disclosure in Check
1. Check-In with Yourself: Before sharing, ask yourself, “Is this for me or for them?” If it’s about meeting your own emotional needs, it’s time to hold back.
2. Consultation is Key: We all have blind spots. Having a trusted mentor or consultation group to run things by can give you the clarity you need to ensure your practice is client-centered.
3. Always Be Assessing: Regularly check in with your clients about how the process is going. Ask them directly if the sessions are working for them, and be open to adjusting your approach. If you notice clients dropping out prematurely, it might be time to reflect on how you’re showing up in the room.
For a deeper dive into self-awareness as a therapist, check out my podcast episode Always Be Assessing and Why Therapy Clients.
The Importance of Professional Boundaries
Boundaries in therapy aren’t just a guideline—they’re an ethical requirement. The American Psychological Association emphasizes that self-disclosure must be carefully considered, ensuring it serves the therapeutic relationship and not the therapist’s personal agenda. If you’re unsure, revisit your professional code of ethics for a quick refresher.
Final Thoughts (and Some Tough Love)
Listen, we’re all human. As therapists, we’re not immune to burnout, stress, or the need for connection. But if you find yourself leaning too much on your clients to meet those needs, it might be time to seek support for yourself. Whether it’s therapy, supervision, or connecting with a professional community, make sure you’re getting what you need outside the therapy room. After all, your emotional well-being matters too, and it’s crucial for staying effective in your work.
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