What Are We? We Talk Every Day. but We’re Not Together.

You laugh together. You text constantly. You share your secrets.
You call them when life breaks you — and they answer.
But they never called you “mine.”
And deep down, you know… they never will.

Welcome to the age of situationships.
Where hearts stay hopeful and labels remain missing.

What is a Situationship?

It’s not a relationship.
It’s not a friendship.
It’s not casual either.

It’s… undefined.
It’s emotional intimacy without emotional responsibility.
It’s connection with confusion.

Psychologists describe situationships as “emotionally entangled, non-committed bonds that simulate romantic relationships without actual commitment.”

In short: It feels real. But it isn’t.

Why Do We Fall for Situationships?

Because they feel like love — until they don’t.

• The dopamine rush of late-night talks
• The fake security of “we’re always talking.”
• The illusion that “maybe one day they’ll choose me.”

Our brains release oxytocin (bonding hormone) in these micro-moments of closeness.
But when there’s no clarity , that oxytocin becomes emotional poison.
You feel loved… but unlabeled. Seen… but not claimed.

Why It Hurts More Than a Breakup

Because with a breakup, you know it’s over.
But with a situationship, it never really began.

• No closure.
• No reason.
• Just silence… slowly swallowing you whole.

You can’t even grieve it properly because:
“We weren’t even officially together.”
So you suffer in silence — and pretend it was nothing.

The Cycle You Don’t Notice

1. They love-bomb you with attention.
2. You grow attached.
3. They pull back — call it “space.”
4. You wait.
5. They come back… but still not as yours.

How to Break Free

• Call it what it is. Not “confusing,” but unavailable.
• Stop chasing clarity from someone who benefits from keeping you confused.
• Choose emotional peace over temporary highs.
• Heal. Then raise your standards.

Final Thought

You deserve love that’s loud about you.
Not a band that’s afraid to define itself.
Not someone who “acts like” they love you — but never says it.

Because you’re not meant to almost matter to someone.
You’re meant to belong.