Are You Scaring Men Away With These 5 Dating Turn-Offs after 50?
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Have you ever been on a date that felt like everything was going smoothly?
You were having fun and then out of nowhere, he ended your time together for no reason at all?
You start wondering . . . “Did I do something wrong?”
Well, it’s possible you showed him one of these 5 dating behaviors that are notorious for turning men off.
I’m going to share how to avoid these Dating Turn-Offs and what you can do instead to keep a man interested and engaged with you.
Dating Turn-off #1 . . . Bashing Your Ex on a First Date
Early in the dating game, a new man doesn’t want to hear how bitter and angry you may still feel about your ex.
To a man, this feels like 3 people are on the date, not 2, and he feels he has to compete for better or worse with your ex to win you over.
It’s too much work for him, so he will probably check out quickly.
If you’re having trouble getting over your ex, work with a therapist before you start dating. Otherwise, you’ll attract the same guy . . . just with different hair, different clothes and a different job.
But chances are with the same emotional issues that split you apart in the first place.
Dating Turn-off #2 . . . Hiding Your Feminine Side
Today, you’re often expected to be aggressive like a tigress in the office, and a soft kitten once you are home.
If you’re going on a date after the end of a long day at work, it can be hard to make an emotional transition from work to dating.
You could easily end up giving orders to a man about what you’d like him to do for you.
To a man, this comes across as masculine behavior, and an Alpha Male is not looking for another man to be his partner in life.
If you’re having a challenging time transitioning from work to date, give yourself time to decompress before you head out again to meet a new man.
Dating Turn-off #3 . . . Inquiring Minds Want to Know!
The quickest way to scare a man off is by asking lots of privacy-invading questions about his life at the beginning of the dating process.
Privacy-invading questions like this . . . “What time did you get up today?” “What did you do last night?” or “Where are you going?” are turn-offs for emotionally healthy men.
Men love the freedom to do as they please.
When a man feels like you’re keeping tabs on his activities, he starts thinking you’re trying to take his freedom away and that you are going to try and control his life in some way.
This feels really scary to him!
When he’s ready, he’ll fill you in on his activities.
Meanwhile, take this time to enjoy your own life instead of wanting to know so much about his.
Dating Turn-off #4 . . . Being Attached at the Hip
Nothing scares a man off faster than when a woman he’s just met wants to spend every waking hour of the day with him.
To a man, this appears as if you have no life of your own and that you’re looking to turn his life into yours.
After only one or two dates, if you find yourself making plans for the two of you that stretch out over the next year, that’s going to be a problem.
Wanting too much of his time right away just makes you appear clingy and emotionally needy, which is scary to a man and makes him run.
In reality, men are most attracted to women who are confident and independent and have lives of their own that they bring to the dating table.
Dating Turn-off #5 . . . Saying the “L” Word Too Soon
Sometimes we find ourselves having intense feelings for a new man in our life and we use the words, “I love you” far too quickly.
It’s a good idea to keep this feeling to yourself until you’ve been dating a while or until he says the “L” word first.
If you say it before he’s ready, you could find yourself right back in the dating pool again.
I love sharing tips with you every week about dating in your 50’s, 60’s and yes! 70’s.
I hope you’re going out and using what you’re learning in your own dating life.
Sometimes, tips aren’t enough and you need support personalized to what’s happening in your dating life.
If this is you, I’d love to help you.
Let’s set up a time to talk about what’s happening and how we can get you to where you want to be. Ok?
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Now to inspire you that you too can find love after 50!
Lisa…had another amazing evening with Jim Saturday. It was our 7th date! So enjoying our time together. And so grateful to you for showing me how to find love with such a wonderful man. None of this would have been possible without your coaching and your insights into men and who I really wanted in my life. Thank you so much! Leigh, Ohio.
Believing in you!
Big hugs ~
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