Step 3: Identify the Obstacles
So you know what you want. Great. Why don’t you have it yet?
This is where we explore what’s standing in your way. Is it an external limitation (money, time, responsibilities)? Is it an internal belief (fear of failure, imposter syndrome, confusion)? Or is it a skills deficit?
Yes, sometimes we’re stuck simply because we never learned how to do the thing we want to do. Communication skills, time management, boundary-setting, assertiveness—these are learnable. Sometimes it’s about rewiring our subconscious beliefs and changing our thoughts.
And once you know what your obstacle is, you can do something about it.
Step 4: Ask the Power Question
Ready for a truth bomb? When you feel like “I hate my life”, you need to ask yourself this one major question:
“What is it about the way I’m currently operating that is contributing to this outcome?”
It’s not about blaming yourself. It’s about reclaiming your power. Because when you understand your part of the dynamic, you can change it. And that, my friend, is where transformation begins.
This question invites reflection, curiosity, authenticity, and growth. If you don’t like your answers, good! That means you’re getting somewhere.
Step 5: Take (Micro) Action
Finally: the doing part. All the journaling, talking, and vision-boarding in the world won’t help unless you act.
The key to moving past the “I hate my life” thoughts is to start small. Like, ridiculously small. One conversation. One habit. One boundary. One phone call. One decision. Action creates momentum, and momentum creates change.
So ask yourself: What’s one thing I can do today that supports the life I want to build?
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If you’re sitting there thinking, “Yes. This is exactly where I am and I’m ready to change,” I want you to know: you don’t have to figure this out alone.
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Xoxo
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
P.S. If you’re thinking, “Wow, I wish my friend/cousin/sister could hear this,” please share this article or the podcast episode with them. You never know who needs a little hope and a plan today. Let’s lift each other up. ❤️
Resources:
Iso-Ahola, S. E., & Dotson, C. O. (2014). Psychological momentum: Why success breeds success. Review of general psychology, 18(1), 19-33. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1037/a0036406
Harter, S. (2002). Authenticity. https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2002-02382-027
Kreibich, A., Hennecke, M., & Brandstätter, V. (2020). The Effect of self–awareness on the identification of goal–related obstacles. European Journal of Personality, 34(2), 215-233. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1002/per.2234
