Are You Still Dating Like You Did in Your Teens and 20’s?

As A Woman Over 50, Are You Still Dating Like You Did in Your Teens and 20’s?

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Doesn’t it feel like just yesterday you were in high school or college?

Chances are you still wear jeans and like many women our age, your hair is probably longer than your mother’s was at this time in her life.

They used to cut their hair once they were married.

With vibrant memories of your school years still floating around in your head, it’s likely you don’t even feel or look like you’re in your 50’s, 60’s or 70’s, right?

And that’s why when you’re out there looking for Mr. Right, you may be using the same criteria as you did in your teens or 20’s.

What this means is instead of wanting the handsome football captain like you did in high school, today you’re looking for his older version . . .  a man who is successful, good looking and charming.

But when you go online with your 20-year-old mindset of Mr. Right, who pops up?

Pictures of men who look like your grandfather did with grey, thinning hair, a belly and a boatload of baggage.

No wonder it seems like no one’s out there to date – they all seem too old for you!

A couple of years ago, I remember seeing a picture on Facebook of my handsome high school sweetheart who, by the way, did play football back in the day.

I was shocked!

The young man I remembered had long black hair and wore cool “painter’s pants.”

In my mind, I expected an older version of this 18 year old man.

Instead, there he was with snow-white hair and a suit.

Although he was still handsome, he looked just like his father.

The thing is we don’t see ourselves aging and it’s why we are so shocked when we see men our age pop up on dating sites.

I remember a man once sharing with me that he was getting ready to post his picture on a dating site and his daughter asked him, “Dad, why are you posting a picture of you from 10 years ago?”

He confided in me that the picture was how he still saw himself and he hadn’t realized his face had aged so much since it was taken.

None of us likes to think we are getting older, but we are and so are the men we are looking to date.

There are some men who have kept their looks and have aged well.

Yet there are others who haven’t.

And when they haven’t, you usually end up passing them by especially online.

Yet if you’d met that same man in real life, you might think twice about his potential because all of a sudden his personality shines and that combined with his looks can make him one handsome man in your eyes.

Attraction is important.  But more important is who he is underneath those looks.

Wouldn’t you love to be with a man who will be at your side through thick and thin?

Who you can have fun with on weekends and on vacation?

Who sees you as beautiful even as you age?

He’s out there and might possibly be one of those men who’s staring back at you online from your computer screen.

That’s why I suggest if he seems nice, to give him a chance and go on a second, third and maybe even fourth date.

He just may turn out to be the wonderful, loving man you’ve been looking for.

And if you haven’t seen it already, check out how my client Lisa found her soulmate in her 50’s by clicking here.

Believing in you!

Big hugs ~

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