Let’s talk about something controversial and really uncomfortable.
If I ask you the question… is cheating ever justifiable?
Yeah…I’m sure you’re going to scream a quick “No!”.
“Cheating is unacceptably wrong, period!”
Obviously, that’s what most people would definitely say. Even without thinking and generally without having any evident basis, at least that’s what society taught us.
It’s one of those topics everyone has an opinion on. Yet only few people are always honest about it, especially because most people haven’t been in the shoes before.
Let’s be really honest, life isn’t usually going to be predictable and glaring as black and white.
Most people that cheat don’t just cheat because they are heartless, lack human feelings or just evil in nature, and it’s not because they have no love for their partners. They cheat because they can’t get their needs met by their partners.
“Most who cheat do it because they have long felt broken inside long before they finally cross the line.”
They do what they do because they feel unseen, unheard, invisible and probably unappreciated. Some even tried by begging, pleading and exploring more visible options before they resorted to the “evil” means to gratify their innermost desire.
Also others do it out of revenge, because they are lonely or because they want to feel loved and wanted again. But let’s be honest, none of these reasons is actually excusable.
Although, cheating is mostly about what’s broken and inner unmet needs, thirst,or hunger inside a person or in a relationship instead of a simple lust or a betrayal
But still, it’s not right…it’s absolutely not right!
“Cheating is a sign or symptom of a decadence of communication, pride or love in a relationship.”
It happens when communication is inadequate, when pride replaces vulnerability and love, and when love feels estranged in a relationship. Some see it as an escape route from loneliness or a means to satisfy a long unfilled void. Either way, regardless of the reasons, the damage is the same.
When you cheat, you’re not just hurting your partner, you’re not just betraying them, you’re betraying yourself as well. You’re opting for a temporary gratification, satisfaction, and validation over long-term honesty and integrity.
What if you don’t get caught and no one ever hears it?
Even with that, there’s something that feels broken in you. Something within you changes, the guilt abides with you and it will constantly, from time to time eat you up and your personal respect suffers.
So, is cheating ever justifiable?
No, it doesn’t matter how you think about it. If you feel there’s a gap or an inner unsatisfied need, desire or void within you, there are other healthier, safer, godly and Socially acceptable means of addressing it.
You may resort to having an open and honest talk about it with your partner, seek counseling and mentorship or prayer about it.
In Conclusion
It is constructive to instead of just judging so quickly, we should learn to calm down and ask why people do some of the “evil” things we see and hear in society.
It might be as a result of pain, neglect, or unmet needs that most of the people never got to learn to explain, express or deal with in a healthy manner.
Remember, if you’re never been in the shoes, how do you know how it feels?
Thanks for reading
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