3 Reasons Why Men Don’t Call You Back in The Over 50’s Dating Game
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Ever have an amazing 1st date where the two of you have spent hours talking about anything and everything?
Then at the end of the date, he gives you a hug or a kiss and says he’ll call you but he doesn’t.
Why does this happen? I’m going to explain 3 reasons why it does and what you can do about it in the future.
Reason #1 . . . You might be coming across as needy or desperate
Susie came to me because she was having the hardest time getting second dates.
She told me when she met a man, she knew within the first couple of minutes whether or not he had potential to be the one.
If he seemed like he had potential, as the two of them talked, she’d start fantasizing about their future life together.
She imagined what it would look like when they moved in together.
Of what a good time they’d have if they vacationed at one of their favorite places.
So stirred up by these mental images, she’d find herself telling him they should make plans for future Saturday night dates that might be fun to do together.
And that was the moment men would start winding down the date.
What Susie was doing was planning a relationship that didn’t exist.
Her future planning came across as “I’m desperate for a relationship” which sent up HUGE RED FLAGS to the men she was meeting.
When you start making his life your life before you’ve gotten to know a man, you’ll never get that second date.
It’s better to slow down and get to know someone first then let him pursue you for that next date.
In the meantime, until you’re exclusive with a man, you want to keep dating.
Reason #2 . . . Having sex with a new man too quickly
Ellen met a man and the chemistry between them was off the charts.
As their date came to an end, she wasn’t quite ready to say goodbye yet.
He walked her to her car and as he kissed her, the hormones started kicking in and things heated up as both of them got more and more turned on.
The next thing she knew, they were in the back seat of her car having sex.
She said they were both on fire and it felt so good and so right.
When it was over, he kissed her goodbye, said he had a great time, and never called her again.
She was devastated thinking the two of them had this amazing bond.
And they did momentarily.
The problem was the sex was too easy for him to get.
Men like to pursue you and they will push your boundaries to see how far they can get with you.
I shared with Ellen that it was ok to have safe first date sex and to not beat herself up for this choice because sometimes those hormones do take over.
But most of the time, 1st date sex rarely leads to a relationship.
Reason #3 … You’re Just NOT His Type
You probably have an idea in your head of who you want to spend the rest of your life with, right?
This is your type and it’s who you’re looking for when you scan men’s pictures on a dating site.
Men do this too and when you match the picture of who they think they want that’s when they reach out to you.
After a couple of emails are exchanged, he calls you and you’re feeling like it’s going really well.
He starts talking about the future saying things like “we’ll have to try out the latest Japanese restaurant together in your area since you love sushi so much” or “my mom will just love you.”
What he’s doing is talking out loud to see how you might fit into his world.
Always take before you meet “future talk” with a grain of salt.
But hearing it . . . you can get excited thinking he might be right for you.
So the two of you meet and within minutes he’s decided you aren’t a match so the second date doesn’t happen.
It’s not personal.
You’re just NOT his type.
Save yourself a lot of date analysis and evaluation by not being invested in its outcome.
Instead, go out there with the intention of meeting someone new and interesting.
It will make dating a lot more fun and easier for you.
Now to inspire you that you can find love after 50!
Lisa, I’m Engaged!!!!!
Lisa…I wanted to let you know I’ve been dating an amazing man and we recently got engaged. The process and guidance you provided was instrumental in me meeting him. He’s a kind, generous, adoring, adventurous, stable and amazing man who adores me every day. I don’t think I would have been prepared to meet him without going through your program, and believe me I didn’t always comply or agree with you but I did it anyway. Your program really works Lisa and it had all the tools I needed to find my guy. I’m 61 and believe that true love is an option for anyone. Kathy, California
Always Believing in YOU!!!!
Big hugs ~
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