3 Shifts That Can Take You from Single and Alone to Love after 50 with a Quality Man
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Shift #1: Know that you are the prize!
One of the scariest things about dating, especially after 50, is having to worry about how members of the opposite sex will perceive you, especially when you’re comparing yourself to the person you were when you were 20.
When you do this, you’re giving your power away to someone you don’t even know yet.
Hey, I did it when I first started dating too.
I’d fret for hours about a date so to calm down, I’d call my sister and ask her if the guy I was meeting would like me as if she had a crystal ball at her side. lol
She didn’t and I’d go on that date not feeling like I was enough.
Ever feel that way?
The “I’m not enough” mindset we subconsciously run can take you down because you can only attract a man from how you feel about yourself today . . . meaning if you feel crappy about yourself, guess who you’ll attract?
Men who don’t feel so great about themselves either.
This is why I write about confidence in so many of these blogs because if you feel good about yourself, then you will attract quality men.
BTW . . . Did you know that confidence and your passions for life are the #1 Attraction Factors to a man?
Shift #2: Appreciating your Feminine Side
Want to know a secret about men?
They love when you let them feel like a man.
And it’s so simple to do by learning to receive and appreciate what a man does for you.
Hey, I know you’re strong because you’ve had to be strong to live a single life.
Men know this too and it’s why it makes them feel so good around you when you trust them enough to allow them to do something for you that makes your life easier.
For many women, they see asking for help as a weakness.
It’s not. It’s actually a strength and will help you get your needs met by men who will happily step up for you.
Even strangers will step up which is what happened to me recently on an airplane.
I wasn’t sure I could get my suitcase up into the overhead bin.
I have a tendency to overpack just in case I might need it which led to my suitcase being heavy.
I pondered how I was going to lift that baby and noticed a man sitting across the aisle from my seat.
So I asked him what I call “The 5 Magic Words” . . . Could do me a favor and help me lift my suitcase?
Not only did he lift it but when the plane landed, he got up, opened the overhead bin and asked me if my suitcase was the blue or the black one before he pulled the right one down and even lifted up the handle for me.
I thanked him and watched his body language shift with pride as I let him be a man and because I was open to receiving his help.
Shift #3: Choosing A Man Based on Values versus Qualities
It’s likely you have an idea of what a man needs to have to be the right match for you.
Maybe you’ve been looking for qualities like a particular body type, a certain level of fitness, education or a specific job and salary requirement, just to name a few.
And a man might have every quality on your list yet still be the wrong match for you.
I remember dating a man who had 99% of the qualities I thought I wanted but our values didn’t match.
He was a good guy and he had great values of his own, they just weren’t in line with mine which is probably why the relationship only lasted a year.
You want to think of qualities as a wish list of things that are fun for a man to have or for the two of you to do.
What’s more important is to think about 10-15 Values that are must-haves for you.
Why? Because ultimately what is going to help you deeply connect with a man and be able to create a long term relationship will be the values the two of you share as you navigate life together.
Believing in you!
Big hugs ~
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