5 Tips For Approaching Quality Men In Real Life
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You walk into a restaurant and at the bar, you spot an attractive over 50’s man who you think might be your type.
The problem is you’re not sure quite what to do to get his attention.
So instead of stopping and talking, you keep on walking which means you might have missed meeting someone who could be a great match for you.
I know approaching men can feel scary.
But, guess what?
Regardless of the way men are portrayed in movies where they just walk up to a woman and start flirting, few have the guts to do it in real life.
But they might if they knew it was safe to approach you.
Today, I want to give you 5 tips that show you how to signal a man you’re interested in him.
Tip #1
Smile at a man you’re attracted to and make eye contact with him for five seconds.
Yes, FIVE FULL SECONDS . . . It will seem like an eternity but it’s a signal to him you’re approachable.
Tip #2
An easy way to get things going is to ask a man you want to meet a simple question.
What does that look like?
Here are some examples of questions you can ask to get a dialogue going between the two of you . . .
- You’re at a happy hour with a friend and a man sits next to you and orders red wine. Ask him about it and whether he’d recommend it.
- You’re at Starbucks. Ask if the chair next to a nice-looking man is taken. Or if you’re in line, ask what his favorite coffee is.
- You’re at a dog park. Ask about his dog’s veterinarian and if he’d recommend him or her for your puppy.
Tip #3
Know that men mean what they say.
We as women don’t always hear it.
I want to share with you what that looks like in this quick story about my client Heidi who totally missed that a man was interested in her.
Heidi was sitting at a bar having dinner with her friend.
They struck up a conversation with a man who sat down next to them.
It was her friend who asked the question, “What salad is that?” and the conversation between the three of them took off.
When her friend left, Heidi and this attractive man who they’d found out was from out of town continued talking.
Over and over again he shared with Heidi that he wasn’t locked into where he lived and that he’d seriously dated women from cities other than the one he lived in.
She totally missed his male language hint for “are you interested in dating me even though I live out of town?” ultimately losing out on an opportunity to date a man she was attracted to.
Tip #4
To this day, one of my favorite television shows is I Love Lucy™.
In the 1950’s a woman would drop her handkerchief in front of a man to let him know she was interested in him.
Lucy, dressed in disguise, was pretending to be another woman.
She wanted to see if Ricky would flirt with her so she dropped her handkerchief and said, “Pardon me,” fully expecting him to pick it up for her.
Both understood this was a sign she was interested in him and he could approach her if the attraction was mutual.
You can do the same thing with men today.
Instead of using a handkerchief, try dropping a folder or package you might be carrying.
Who knows what it might lead to!
Tip #5
Your job is to let him know you’re interested in having him approach you.
His job is to ask you out if he’s interested in you.
If he’s not, it doesn’t mean he’s personally rejecting you.
He might be married, have a girlfriend or you might not be his type.
Just move on… There are plenty of other men out there.
Chalk the experience up as an opportunity to practice your flirting skills.
Any time you’re out and about, interact with men around you because you never know, one just might be the right man for you.
Believing in you ~
Big hugs ~
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