Here’s The Secret To Flirting and Meeting Men
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Approaching men over 50 in real life can feel pretty scary because we are afraid of being rejected.
But it’s actually a lot easier than you think once you know how.
Flirting starts with you not being attached to how it’s going to turn out.
Instead, you’ll want to go into this with the mindset of having fun meeting someone new and interesting in the real world. (or online)
And if it goes somewhere, great.
If it doesn’t, don’t get discouraged.
Think of it as having had an opportunity to practice a new dating skill.
The art of flirting is about giving men a signal that you are safe to approach.
The first thing you want to do is make eye contact and smile.
This displays a feeling of warmth and friendliness, making it easier for a man to approach you.
To get his attention, ask him a question.
Most restaurant bars have televisions tuned into sports.
Sports are an easy icebreaker because you can always ask something about football, baseball, or basketball based on what’s on the big screen.
You want to keep your questions open-ended, which means staying away from yes and no questions that can stall a conversation before it ever gets started.
Once things get rolling, you can extend your hand and say, “Hi, I’m Lisa.”
He’ll extend his hand and say, “Hi, I’m Mike.”
Use his name often in the conversation. People love hearing their names.
A really easy way to do this is by complimenting him . . . “Oh Mike, you have the most gorgeous blue eyes.”
Men love flattery just as much if not more than women do, so genuinely compliment him when you can.
While the two of you are talking, you’ll want to continue the art of flirting by laughing, leaning in when he speaks or lightly touching him on the arm or hand from time to time.
Also feel free to use light sarcasm that is playful about you, him, or the two of you.
It’s important to keep reading “the vibes” that are happening during all of this.
If you find you’re only getting one-word answers . . . it’s likely he’s not interested.
But if he engages, talks and compliments you, you’ve begun a connection.
And you want him to ask for your phone number.
Here are a couple of ways you can make that happen without appearing too forward.
If he asks what you do, pull out your business card and say, “Here’s what I do, Mike.”
This is a very subtle way of giving him your number without being too obvious about it and if he’s interested, he’ll give you a call.
You can also let him know how much you liked meeting and talking with him.
Then add, “I would really enjoy having the chance to continue learning more about you.”
Again, you’re showing him it’s safe to ask you for your phone number.
Let’s say during your time together, you’ve been talking about spots around town or new restaurants that have opened.
You can always relate back to this topic by saying something like, “If you ever find a great place you enjoy, let me know.”
This is another subtle way to get him to ask for your number.
Now here’s a fun way to get his number.
You can ask him a question like, “Do you eat out every night or do you cook for yourself?”
Once he answers, ask him, “What’s your favorite thing to cook?”
When he tells you what it is you can say, “I have an amazing recipe for that, would you like it?”
If he says yes, you can say, “How about I text it to you when I get home. What’s your number?”
A little more forward but not super aggressive.
Go out and use what I’ve shared with you today about flirting.
I’ve had clients meet great men in the real world while having fun doing this. You can too!
Want to leave you with a little inspiration that you can find love after 50!
I am having so much FUN dating at this time in my life!
Hi Lisa: Thanks to your group program, I am communicating with multiple men now on dating sites. Most importantly, I am having fun! The fact that this is a process seems to have clicked which has greatly reduced my frustration. I know that meeting a quality man will be so worth the time and energy that I have been putting in. Thank you for all the strategies and the support! Jolene, Mn.
Believing in you!
Big hugs ~
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