My story, briefly (she lives about 200 km from me):
1. Started writing with a woman mid February. Marvellous connection – she’s spiritual, and so am I, so lots of common ground
2. We knew almost everything about each other after a couple of weeks
3. We started out writing as friends, but it soon developed into something more serious, and we agreed to meet
4. The date never materialised – after agreeing to meet, she went silent – ghosted me
5. I leaned back for a couple of months, but then decided to write her and say that I could not see myself in a one sided relation. I am what you call a ‘super empath’, and I simply had had enough of her silence.
6. Now it’s September, and I haven’t had any reaction from her except a birthday greeting and a heart emoji on one of my Facebook posts – not a single word on my decision to leave our relation
7. I haven’t reacted to her withdrawal, just thanked her for her birthday greeting in August, which contained a heart emoji, a Danish flag, and a red rose – deeply confusing. I wrote nothing personal, just thank you. This almost three weeks ago – still not a word from her – so be it.
When we got to know each other, she characterized herself as a fearful avoidant, and I’m definitely an anxious preoccupied, so you can hardly have a worse combination, can you? What a pity – we have so much in common, but she got scared when things became serious. Deeply frustrating, but potential isn’t enough for me. I want commitment, but will hardly get it. Told her that I wouldn’t accept push/pull dynamics, only reciprocity, but I’ve never had a reaction to my words. That’s it, and that’s that – I won’t chase.
