Why am I still single? Have you ever asked yourself that? This can be a tough question to ask yourself.
Look, it’s not your fault! Dating used to be a whole lot easier before the age of the Internet & social media – ironically.
Hey, you might be over 25 years of age by now and find yourself single, scared, and alone.
Where did the years go? What happened? How do you get past it?
These are most often questions we ask ourselves when we get here.
Now, if I were to answer it – and not know you personally – It could have been because….
1. You’ve been TOO focused on your career
…and never had the time to be aware of the opportunities that presents.
But it also creates complications when you realize that your biological clock has been ticking the whole time.
2. Maybe you’re too choosy
You have set a standard that no man can meet. It’s like “if he isn’t this, then I won’t bother…”
And you still want to be selective, just not sacrifice your standards.
3.You have no idea how to play the game
…and so men you like (and the men that like you) slip through your fingers.
This is VERY common – and the easiest thing for me to help you fix.
4.You’re trapped in the past
You cannot move on and always stuck to the “ONE” who got away.
It’s time to let go, and stop looking in the rear view mirror.
5.You’re TOO available
You might have gotten a bit too needy and clingy that you scare any guy that dares get close. The antidote is realizing that men can sense your self-value.
6.You have emotional issues
This could make you afraid of intimacy and a real relationship. You became cynical and a perhaps a bit commitment phobic.
Whatever your reasons are, and if you want to NOT be single anymore, there’s an easy way to get past it all: You have to be willing to learn.
That’s it.
You gotta be flexible on things and view another way of “seeing” the situation than your own perspective – which has probably limited you so far.
You can do this by…
1. Re-programming yourself
Let go of negative thoughts and start to replace each of them with positivity.
2. Get to know the REAL you
Find time to reach out to your authentic self. Get that boost of confidence, enough to shut out all the noise. So you can get through life without fear of judgment.
3. Find the time to explore life
So you can get out there, meet people, build relationships with them and live a quality life. You’ll meet more men, and widen your perspective.
4. Educate yourself
Start learning about your strengths and weaknesses. Accepting your flaws and enhancing your assets. AND learn the dating and relationship secrets that will take you to the front of the line.
Yes, that means learning about men – studying who they are, what turns them off – and what attracts them to you.
If you don’t want to be single anymore, instead of asking the question “Why am I still single?”, start changing that question to…
“What do I need to do RIGHT NOW to find the guy I deserve?”
Remember though that not having a man in your life does NOT make you LESS of a woman. You have the POWER – the choice to be with him.
Yours In Perfect Passion…
– Carlos Cavallo
UPDATED 9/27/2021
