Why They Disappear and What to Do About It

Thanks Matthew, I’m in the midst of much of what you’ve said. Thank you for verbalizing it so eloquently.
10 years of intensity then his pull back intermittently through the years- any time his life became difficult/ challenging.. I notice, looking back, a pattern of his life having “large challenges” every few months that then he would pull away from me saying he needed to focus on those issues. It left me feeling sad and alone and year after year, when he would return, I notice a part of me would become less vocal and hesitant to feel, or express my feelings for fear he would pull away, that I would become another difficulty for him. As such, now he says the has “ a lot going on, and I need some space at this time”. And I’m at the point where I just said “ok”. No more. I don’t want to extend a hand any longer, or check in. I’m emotionally drained. I feel like he creates these problems, and chooses to not to share his full life with me. In taking your courses, I’ve started to find my voice again, and recognize that he does not have the qualities I really require in a man today. All this resonates and helps me put the pieces together. I’ll be in the 30 day confidence course